13 Reasons Your Boyfriend Is Your Best Friend

Best-Friend (noun) The definition of a best friend is a person who you value above other friends in your life, someone you have fun with, someone you trust, and someone in whom you confide. The first person you call when you get good news, or want to go out for a bite to eat is an example of your best friend.

As a little girl I would ask my mom who her "best friend" was and her answer was always "Dad". Being young I found that hard to believe because I thought a girls best friend was suppose to be another girl... well I was wrong.

Growing up without a sister forced me to love my two pain in the ass brothers, but luckily I met four great friends who have over the years turned into sisters. Therefore, not calling them my "best friends" left me with an open space, for the person who has now filled the role.

It took me multiple arguments, constant I hate yous, some separation, and tons of I love yous, to come to the conclusion I met my bf4lyfe.

After a good amount of time, maybe even years, you come to the realization that your girlfriends are the best but your boyfriend is your best friend.

Here are a few of my personal reasons why:

1. On the weekends you want to sit in with him, drink some beers and catch up on The Real World.

2. You share everything, whether it's the food on his plate or the boxers in his draw to sleep in; what's his is yours and what's yours is his.

 

3. No one will ever understand the nicknames and inside jokes between you two.

4. You can't go out without people asking "Where is he?"

5. You don't care about what you look like around him.

6. He eats your favorite food once a week even if he doesn't like it because, well, it's your favorite food.

7. The snapchats you send him are worse than the ones you send your friends...

8. You say the meanest things to each other but get over it 5 minutes later.

 
9. You forgo a nice dinner to eat Wawa subs and kill a six pack... because why not?

10. You have more pictures with him then you have of yourself.

11. There is absolutely no privacy between you two.

12. No matter what mood your in, he makes you smile at all hours of the day.

13. Most importantly, you can't imagine a better best friend.

Facebook Needs To Disappear Like Myspace Did

 

It will be three years this June that my Facebook has been deactivated and it was the smartest decision I made since I stopped eating dollar store frozen food.

There are numerous reasons I am not a fan of Facebook. One being I don't enjoy being reminded that when I was younger I went through a very awkward stage in which I should of never been photographed during. Two being those drunken tagged photos the day after I drank myself into a comma doesn't make me feel too great. And three, I have enough needless social media aggravation between obnoxious Twitter and Instagram posts that I don't need anymore.

Nonetheless, I found those to be good enough reasons to deactivate it, but the main reason I have no interest in Facebook is because I have no interest in anyone's lives that I need to find out information about through a post.

If you are a close friend, or part of my family then everything I need to know about you, I know. I do not need to worry about you posting big news on Facebook and finding out there first. I am aware that the closest people in my life keep me in the loop of what's going on before posting it for people they haven't spoken to in four years to read.

Plus, it does not concern me that Lisa is visiting Europe for the second time this year. Or Jessica is engaged to her very wealthy high school sweetheart.

The things I see on Facebook just boggle my mind.....

 
Like my cat died or I just got my third new job, with hopes people care.

It's bad enough some people's self-esteem's are ruined after the "like" button was created, but now this is another factor of not only "liking" a picture but giving you attention by liking your posts or commenting on your page.

And why is it after some people Instagram a photo they have to also add it to their Facebook?!?! Seeing it once was enough.

Oh it's great how everybody turns into a comedian.. "Got Beat Up by Beat The Clock".. Lol

And yes I love my dog but does he need to be tagged in his own Facebook page?... I think not.

I don't mean to be a negative Nancy, I am not trying to be negative at all. My friends bitch at me all the time for deactivating my Facebook. They tell me I took away pictures of us which was "memories" but some of those memories are better off not being remembered....

I will continue to enjoy my non-Facebook days. Especially after my Mom screams "I just posted a #TBT of you and your brothers." 

No thank you.

Signs I Need A Vacation

I believe money spent on traveling and making memories is the best way I can spend my money...

April will be the eighth month since I began working full-time and I'm in desperate need of some time away from the office. The main purpose of a vacation is to escape reality for a little while, which is exactly what I need, an escape.

Taking vacations are something I valued growing up. There is no denying catching sun rays while sucking down a strawberry daiquiri is enjoyable but the best part is the appreciation I give myself. I don't live to work, I work to live. All the vacations I've taken have been paid out of my own pocket; Punta Cana, Niagra Falls, Miami... so getting away shows me that all the hard work I've done was worth it to be able to travel. There is just something about getting on a plane and watching it take off away from dirty Jerz that I find exhilarating.  

Vacations are well-spent money because it’s time filled with relaxation, and an abundance of alcohol consumption. I have been away to numerous places before I graduated college and started working full-time which is exactly why I need to stop making excuses. I have come to the conclusion there are an abundant reasons why I need a vacation. Hence hopefully by writing them in this blog, I will get myself away sooner than later.

1. I need a place I can let loose, and not worry. #NoRules

2. I am so pale I'm debating on getting a heat lamp in my office to make me feel better about myself.

3. There is nothing relaxing about staring at a computer five days a week.

4. I need motivation to get to the gym and work on getting that that dream 6-pack.

5. My computer screen savor AND mouse pad is a beach with palm trees. (I'm not joking)

6. My new Michael Kors sunglasses deserve to be shown off.

7. My brain hasn't been working to the fullest so my concentration is pretty off...

8. I forgot what sand feels like between my toes and finger tips.

9. I want to be able to drink in the morning, in the afternoon, and at night all in one day.

10. I get two weeks paid vacation. I know, rough right, but if that means drinking on a beach well God damn I have to do, what I have to do...

Mexico, Dominican, Florida.... wherever there is sand, I'm coming for youuuuu......

10 Things I Wish I Could Tell My 16 Year-Old Self

I was told at a young age that I would "grow up fast". I never understood what that meant considering time doesn't go faster for anyone.

Now being 22, I'm starting to understand.

I'll be going on 23 in two months and to some that may still be very young, but it's not that I'm complaining that I'm "old", I'm merely complaining that I'm growing up too fast. Which amazes me because my days at work seem to go by slower than a snail crossing a crosswalk and the pace of the weekends, well I seem to blink and they're over.

Nonetheless, thinking about growing up isn't any more scary than it is exciting. I just wish I could have told myself somethings when I was younger. Just like I bet I'll be saying at 35 "Boy I wish I could of told my 22 year-old self this"...

So here are the 10 things I wish I could have told my 16 year-old self.

1. Ask your parents for advice. They may not be your best friends right now but they will be in the future so take advantage of that relationship and the experience they have. They do know best.

2. That fight you just had with your best friend during lunch over not being on her top 8 or in her AIM profile list of 'best friends' will be pretty irrelevant once you start using Facebook and Twitter.

 

3. Stop crying over the love of your life because he is ignoring you on a Friday night when he's been cheating on you for the past year. You'll end up with someone ten times better, I promise.

4. Enjoy those cafeteria chocolate chip cookies because when you graduate high school no cookie will ever compare.

5. Save $5 dollars a week. You don't have any bills to pay and you don't need any more Von Dutch hats. There should be no reason why you're not saving.

6. Stop mixing beer, jungle juice and whiskey at house parties. You look like a sloppy mess, and your hangovers will only get worse. Vodka-clubs are delicious, healthy, and make you hangover free! It took me till 21 to figure that one out....

7. The popular crew in high school will most likely not be "popular" once their high school years are over. Just because everyone knows their names doesn't not mean they have it all. Once they get out into the real world a lot will change for them, and probably for the worst.

 8. Hanging out with Seniors as a Freshman will, I repeat, will get you in trouble. Mom is right...

9. You do not need to stress about your grades, your future college or what you want to do when you grow up. It will all come together, and you'll end up where you belong.

10. Enjoy everything. Stop saying you "hate" high school. It won't be any better than college but it will be a lot less stressful. Unfortunately you don't get a do-over so make the best of it.

Snow Days at 22 vs 12 Years Old

Who doesn't love a snow day?

No matter what age you are, a snow day merely means no responsibilities for the day which is a feeling of pure happiness.

Now as a working adult, I still enjoy snow days but the happiness just isn't the same like it was when I was younger. I remember at 12 years old I would be so excited for a snow day that the minute I woke up I would run to the window ecstatic to see that white blanket covering my backyard. The excitement would take over my body that I wouldn't even be able to fall back asleep.

Now the only thing I'm doing the minute I wake up is checking my emails for no work and if I'm lucky enough to have work canceled, well now falling back asleep is what I'm most excited about.

The pancakes in shapes of snow men, and the whip cream to top them off is now a bowl of low fat cereal with a mix of wine taste still in your mouth from last night.

Shoveling the driveway use to be a fun bonding experience with your siblings, now the thought of shoveling my driveway makes me so angry that I actually have to leave my bed.

Nevertheless, I love snow days, but at 22 they are just not the same as they were are 12.

Waking up...

  At 22

At 12

Breakfast... 

At 22

 

At 12

 Going out into the snow...

At 22

At 12

Building a snowman...

At 22

At 12

Eating the snowflakes...

At 22

At 12

Hanging inside...

At 22

At 12

It just isn't the same..... nonetheless, enjoy it the best you can!

Miserable Mondays

Why is Monday so far from Friday, and Friday so near to Monday?

There is something about dreadful Mondays that even make some of my Sundays dreadful just from knowing how close I am to it.

Monday is the day that ends the weekend, so I can't blame it for being hated so much. But what makes it worse is how even though we are all aware that Monday is the most hated day of the week, we still go out of our way to display our hatred.

For numerous reasons, we can't treat Monday like the rest of the days of the week. We all have to go above and beyond complaining about it, if not in person to our co-workers, but on our social media.

I have been searching for a bright side to Mondays for the past 22 years and have yet to find one.

Therefore, here are my top 8 reasons why Monday's are the worst.

1. Getting out of bed on a Monday morning is literally the hardest thing you'll do all week.

2. The traffic is out of control.

3. Nobody is happy at work, and you can't be mad about it because you aren't happy either.

4. The day goes by slower than a turtle crossing a cross walk.

5.  Mondays always call for the most office work, plus all the work you pushed off on Friday.

6. Your Instagram newsfeed is filled with pictures of all the fun things you didn't do this weekend.

7. All you can think about is sleep.

8. You are now five days away from it being the weekend again.

....Happy Monday.